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The Centralian advocate Tue 11 Dec 2018



The Centralian advocate Tue 11 Dec 2018


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Nationwide News Pty. Limited

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Alice Springs

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TUESDAY DECEMBER 11 2018 LIFESTYLE 25 V1 - CAVE01Z01MA FOR many of us, at this time of year were preparing ourselves for travelling safely to spend quality time with family and friends, or were preparing for family and friends to travel to us. Its exciting and joyous. Were waiting in anticipation of seeing smiling faces, receiving loving hugs, warm welcomes and happy celebrations. Homes are decorated, inside and out, with vibrant colours that sparkle and shine. Menus are planned, creating scrumptious delights that tantalise tastebuds. There is another part of Christmas that may not be visible unless youve experienced it yourself. I suspect there are many people among our community who may not enjoy Christmas as much as they once did. For some people, this time of year enhances feelings of loss and loneliness, as they observe the For most people, Christmas is a time of celebrating with family and friends, but for others this time of year enhances feelings of loss and loneliness. Picture: ISTOCK Nobody wants to be lonely while others celebrate Xmas Never GIve UP WITH MARILYN KLEEMANN excited children and people purchasing gifts for loved ones, witnessing trees being decorated and cards being written with loving words. For those among us whove experienced the passing of a loved one, this may be a particularly difficult time of year. Missing another persons physical presence can be extremely painful and may leave us feeling lonely and lost. But just because your loved one is no longer in their physical form, doesnt mean theyre not with you. Firstly, all you have to do is close your eyes, take a deep breath and theyll be right there with you. Reminisce about all the joyous occasions you spent together. I hope you experience deep gratitude and love for all those occasions that brought a smile to your beautiful faces, for the times when you laughed so hard that tears were streaming down your cheeks, and for the times when tears of joy filled your eyes. Keep those moments in your heart and reminisce often. Life is meant to be celebrated, not forgotten. Secondly, just because you can no longer see your loved one with your human eyes, doesnt mean theyre no longer with you. Have you ever noticed an object in your home that has been moved slightly but you know you havent touched it? Perhaps an item with sentimental value to both yourself and your loved one whos passed over, has been moved and theres no explanation for how it was moved. The best explanation is, your loved one is communicating that theyre still with you, every single day. There have been a couple of occasions when Ive spent Christmas Day alone. Its not nice. I felt lonely and I felt like no one cared, even though I spoke to my family on the phone. As much as I told myself, Its just like any other day, its not. Im not a religious person and I suspect those people that dont follow the Christian faith may not understand what all the fuss is about. To be honest, I also feel Christmas has been blown out of proportion for economic gain. However, that doesnt change the feeling of it being a time to celebrate with family and friends. But Id prefer to view it as a celebration of what Ive achieved in the past year, how Ive grown and developed, and review whether Im still the same person, living in the same situation I was 12 months ago. I wont be spending Christmas with my family this year, and I still havent decided how Im going to spend the day. But I do know this. Im not the same person I was 12 months ago. Ive grown, not in height but in my understanding of myself and how the world is a reflection of me. Ive grown from the perspective of I hold all the answers to my questions about life, within me. I just have to continue on this path to uncover the answers. Sure, sometimes that involves a jack hammer but the answer is there, nonetheless. That, is definitely worth celebrating. So perhaps my day will involve a Celebration of the Self, starting with a sleep in, then a foot soak, a great book to read, perhaps a comedy movie and conversations with my family. Ill have a late lunch of sweet potato fries cooked in coconut oil, sprinkled with cumin, served on a bed of spinach with a dollop of dressing made from coconut yoghurt, lemon juice, black pepper and dill. This will be accompanied by a simple watermelon salad sprinkled with diced red onion and fresh mint. Perhaps Ill go out to Glen Helen Homestead Lodge and reminisce about the wonderful people I met and the beautiful times I had when I lived and worked there. Perhaps Ill spend some time at the Old Timers Village, speaking with the elderly who may no longer be with the spouse theyve spent their lifetime with. Perhaps Ill go to the prison and speak with the inmates who are missing their loved ones. Ill be reminiscing about Christmas last year, when I was with my family and experienced one of the best Christmas weve ever had together. Ill be remembering with love and gratitude, the Christmas I spent with my former fiance. Wherever you are, whatever youre doing for Christmas, I wish you joy, peace and harmony. I wish for you to experience gratitude from the depths of your heart, for the people youre with and for the joy youre experiencing. My heart will be overflowing with love, for my family and friends, near and far. The overflow of love from my heart goes out to all those who may be alone and feeling lonely, and to those who may not be alone but still feel lonely. I know this feeling, but please know this. You are loved. You are worthy. You are valuable. You are cared for. You are beautiful. You are courageous. You are strong, and I believe in you. Marilyn is the Health and Wellness Team Leader and also a Personal Trainer at the YMCA. She has overcome many unhappy experiences, to now embrace a life of joy, connection and abundance. She can be contacted on 8952 5666 or email her Marilyn.kleemann@ymca.o rg.au