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The Centralian advocate Fri 2 Jun 2006



The Centralian advocate Fri 2 Jun 2006


Centralian Advocate; NewspaperNT




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Community newspapers; Northern Territory; Alice Springs; Tennant Creek (N.T.); Newspapers; Alice Springs (N.T.); Australia, Central

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Nationwide News Pty. Limited

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Alice Springs


v. 60 no. 3

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Copyright. Made available by the publisher under licence.

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Nationwide News Pty. Limited



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Centralian Advocate, Friday, June 2, 2006 17 PU B :C A D V D A TE :2 -J U N -2 00 6 PA G E: 17 C O LO R : C M YK The best way to manage behaviour TO smack or not to smack, that is the question ? A recent SBS Insight program on parenting raised the subject and once again people on both sides had very strong views on the matter. Ultimately it is every parents decision on what methods of managing behaviour they use. But there are some things to consider when it comes to smacking. First and foremost, if we smack as parents we can expect our young children to imitateusby smacking their friends or us when they think weve done the wrong thing. As children get older they discern who is allowed to smackandwho is not. How do they do this? Is it based on who is stronger? Or by status, such as: An adult can, but a child cannot? Or by capacity to instil fear? Each of these positions can shift as children grow. It is not an uncommon story that when physical punishment is used to control children, when they get old enough or strong enough they retaliate in like kind toward their parents. It is helpful to consider how we think we may set limits on our childrens behaviour when they are adolescents when a smack is really not appropriate. One of the big arguments as to why we should not smack our children is that it is condoning physical violence as a means of controlling peoples behaviour. Our legal system says that physical violence is not an acceptable means of controlling behaviour and that other methods should be sought. Alongside this debate, is also the issue of our capacity as a parent to control our own behaviour. If our children challenge our position as parents through their behaviour, language or emotions, there is a big question about whether we can stay calm. Discipline It is when we feel personally attacked, have little tolerance due to stress, have behaviours that trigger very deep seatedhurts of our own, that we can lose it in the process of metering out discipline. It can be very easy to smack harder and harder and struggle to stop. This is when the use of smacking as an option is scary Some people say that smacking relies on the use of fear to change a childs behaviour. If our children are afraid of us, it is going to be hard to build a trusting relationship with them. So what are the alternatives to smacking? In brief, time-out, withdrawal of privileges, ignoring inappropriate behaviour where possible and giving attention to desired behaviour. Each requires consistency and determination. As a bottom line, we need to consider how respectful our behaviour is in attempting to guide our children. We need to try to create a safe and secure environment in which they can grow to their maximum potential. To do this we need to set limits in an environment that is loving. It can be helpful to take into account the big picture of the emerging adult we are growing up and the lessons they are learning from us by our example. For any parenting concerns contact Centacare Family Services on 8952 9730. ALICE-2905-FRESH-ORIG Advertised prices apply from 7am on Friday 2nd June 2006 only. Advertised prices not available at Coles Express. We reserve the right to limit sale quantities. Some products or varieties may not be available. FlyBuys terms and conditions apply see in-store for details. While stocks last. Savings shown are off Coles regular selling prices. Advertised products may already be priced below the Coles regular selling price. Savings may therefore vary. Specials may extend beyond the advertised date. Hurry, on sale today only.Save 4c per litre on quality petrol when you spend $30* or more in one transaction at any Coles Supermarket. Conditions apply. See service desk for full details and terms and conditions of offer. *Excludes the purchase of Gift Cards and all purchases from Coles Express. Coles $mart Buy Budget Beef Rump Steak 1.5kg Min. Buy Bulk Pack 801kg 898kg 400kg 1095kg Short Cut Rindless Bacon From the Deli 130ea 229ea Helgas Bread 680g - 850g Bagged Iceberg Lettuce 150ea Phone: (08) 8950 0500 Email: astc@astc.nt.gov.au Web: www.alicesprings.nt.gov.au Council has released for public inspection, the draft Estimates and Business Plan for the 2006/07 fi nancial year. These documents are available for ins The Proposed General Rate increase of 7% will fund a number of priorities set out in the 20 Public submissions addressed to the Chief Executive Offi cer, PO Box 1071, Alice Springs, NT 0871, are invited by the close of business on Friday 23 June 2 For further information please contact Ed Wlodarczyk on 8950 0500. &

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